Okay guys, remember this article? You know, the one about reporting sexual assault that included this paragraph:
A minor — in general, 16 or 17, depending on the state — can legally consent to sexual activity. A person of any age who is forced or threatened, developmentally disabled, chronically mentally ill, incapacitated by drugs or alcohol, unconscious or preparing to undergo a medical procedure cannot legally consent to sexual activity.
Wanna help with a letter-to-the-editor campaign?
See, tumblr is great and all…but a letter to the editor could be read by a lot more people, and has potential to effect potentially greater change. So I’m going to send a letter to the editor explaining that yes, actually, I can and do consent to sexual activity, and I’d encourage you all to do the same.
Contact info:NYTimes contact: firstname.lastname@example.orgAuthor: email@example.com(And I’ll publish what I submit here, as well.)
If you can’t articulate a full post or have anxiety around sending an email, feel free to send me comments or emails or whatever. I’ll put together something with your comments when I get back online monday so that your comments can be heard too. I know I have a couple of followers who struggle with anxiety about this sort of thing.
Here’s my own personal response. I hope I got my idea across?
In response to The Twice-Victimized of Sexual Assault: Awareness about the prevalence of Sexual Assault in our country is needed. But I was appalled by the statement that People with Developmentally Disabled and People with Chronic Mental Health Disabilities cannot consent to sex. This is not only wrong, but encourages a system that victimizes us by saying we are incapable of consenting to major choices in our lives. We are often denied competence to object to our care, report abuse, own property, and live independently because of this argument. By denying us our sexual agency, you reinforce the same system that makes an abusive power dynamic- one in which our abuse is framed as inevitable. Our loved ones will have to have detailed, not in the heat of the moment conversations about what sexual consent means to us, yes. But shouldn’t all couples be having that discussion?